How is your moaning (that’s moaning NOT morning) going since Part 1 of The Blame Game?. If you’ve made some headway (ie. you’ve managed to reduce it), congratulations. That’s step 1 of how to live a better and less stressful life.
Step 2 is how to avoid becoming the victim. It’s about self-sabotage (which in reality is just more moaning).
Whenever we beat ourselves up, we do two things to our souls: 1: we become the victim (of whatever it is we’re beating ourselves up about), and 2: we kill off whatever chance we had of recovery (at least at that moment).
It’s utterly debilitating, but which is worse (moaning about others or moaning about ourselves)? Neither. They’re the same, and the reason for that is we’re all one.
Everything in our universe depends on everything else (it’s more than the butterfly effect).
If you’ve ever read Tolstoy’s War and Peace, you’ll discover a strange section on philosophy about 2/3rds of the way through. Tolstoy calls it “continuity of motion”. It’s about cause and effect. More on that in part 3 of The Blame Game here, meanwhile, know one thing. Every time you blame yourself or someone else, you sabotage your future happiness.
Set yourself a trigger so you remember. That trigger is an emotional one. You’re looking out for any emotion you feel other than excitement, happiness, or tranquillity. The second you feel it, check yourself, and if you feel a moan coming on, stop it right there in its tracks. Don’t let it take hold. Make this a lifetime habit.
PS. Hook the notion up to a Trigger Fish. Feel an emotion? Think Trigger Fish (it will take your mind off responding immediately and give you time to think).